...and they all lived happily ever after...

...and they all lived happily ever after...

Monday, July 6, 2015

Temples, Temples, and more Temples (plus one more)

This Sunday, our temple trips saw us venture to Utah County.

Because there is kind of a high concentration of temples along this stretch, we opted to string them into visits all on one warm, Utah afternoon.

And that's how we squeezed/squoze?? four temples into one outing.

First stop, Payson temple...most recently dedicated around here and absolutely gorgeous.  The fun part about seeing four temples in one day is that their differences really stand out to you because you just saw the other one.  Payson has some lovely carvings along the rim of the stone work and it is an imposing, almost overpowering feature as you drive toward it.  We were impressed and enjoyed our brief visit.

Second stop, Provo City Center temple.  This one was particularly fun for the kids because it is nestled right at the center of Provo and is NOT white.  WHAT?? (Our kids were surprised -- never mind that we already visited the Logan temple which is also extremely un-snow colored.)  Yup, you heard it here, not white...but gorgeous.  It is a lovely site.  It was lovely as a tabernacle and is lovelier as a temple.


Third on our list was the Provo temple.  Now, I will be honest, I have never much cared for the design of this one.  In fact, as a child, when the temple was lit at night I told my parents it looked like a giant carrot.  

However, this was my first time actually visiting this temple and I have become a bit more of a fan after meeting the building in person.  The grounds are amazing and the building was sweet and inviting.  I can't lie and say I love the design, but I think we could be good friends after all.



See, really not so bad (pretend like I didn't accidentally include the top of the fence in the picture).
And our final stop of the day was to the Mount Timpanogos temple.  This was a perfect place to end.  This temple is HUGE and brilliant and shining.  It was a powerful, commanding building and it was great to spend some time near this house of God.



While I have to tell you that not everyone in my crew is as enamored with these temple trips as I am, they have been a wonderful chance to spend time together (long-ish care rides do that) and try to keep focused on things that really matter.  

Eleven down, six to go!

Draper
Jordan River
Oquirrh Mountain
Salt Lake
Mount Timpanogos
Payson
Provo City Center
Provo
Bountiful
Ogden
Logan
St. George
Brigham City
Cedar City
Manti
Vernal
Monticello

Friday, July 3, 2015

Keeping your tongue tucked in

The other day I posted about a fairly rude comment tossed at Josh while he was working his part time job last week.  I do feel like it is completely outlandish to scoff at someone because of their job whatever that job or its perceived education requirement may be.  You don't know their history, you don't know their situation, you have no idea of their choices or motivation or who knows what else.  Most people are good people doing their very best with whatever life has handed to them and there is no need to judge them as lesser or lazier or un-intelligenter (I know, I know, not a word) than they "should" be or "could" be.  Sometimes it is just better to keep your tongue tucked in.

That said, as I have been thinking about this incident I have been reminded of some times in MY life when I have made ridiculous, cutting comments and have wounded people's feelings.

Like everyone on the planet, I am far from immune to having absurd sometimes hurtful remarks slip out of my mind and over my lips.  It's true the scripture from James that says, "Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things.  Behold how great a matter a little fire kindleth." Yup, little member capable of big fire.  That sounds about right.

I remember a time years ago when I was chatting with a cute lady whom I love.  We were both in our early 20's and in the process of growing our families.  She had recently been working very hard over a matter of several month and had lost quite a bit of the weight gained during her last pregnancy.  She was telling me about some of the things she had done to change her diet and to exercise and stuff like that.

As we continued to chat, she mentioned to me that she and her husband had just found out they were pregnant again.  My stupid first comment was something like, "Oh man, and you just lost all that weight!"

I could have slapped myself the moment those words vomited from my mouth.  I felt terrible and was horribly embarrassed.  I tried to back pedal, but you know how well that goes.  I really hurt her feelings and made her feel like weight loss was of greater importance than a baby on the way.  Stupid.  Thoughtless.  I still cringe when I remember that unthinking, offensive moment.

I could share more and more and more of these things .  I think most of us could probably think of a few such moments at least from our own lives.  I may even have hurt your feelings at some point (and I am very truly sorry if that is the case).

We all say dumb stuff from time to time and (hopefully) we are all embarrassed when we say such things.

Also, hopefully we can be forgiving and kind when someone says something to us that is a little more derogatory than they meant.  Taking offense where none is intended is not a pretty trait either.  That does not mean that rude comments or inconsiderate remarks do not sting and pain our souls because they do, but when the sting was the result of  thoughtlessness rather than just plain meanness hopefully we can choose to overlook it and (in time) let it go rather than keeping it in our pocket for regular inspection and review.

Which brings me back to Josh and his perfect response to a lady who was less than kind.

Possibly, this lady who demeaned Josh and his intelligence was the victim of just such a moment. Possibly she is at home kicking herself and wishing she had never said such a thing.  Possibly the words she said weren't meant to come out the way they did and just got garbled in the process of speaking.  Who knows.  (Or maybe she is a snide meany pants, we will never be sure.)

However, I am grateful for the people who have given me the chance to repair damage I have unintentionally done with my tongue and I sincerely hope to do the same for other people.

And I guess that means a healthy dose of my own medicine at the moment.

I guess I should start my quest with the lady from Josh's work event.

Seems like a pretty good plan.


Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Well, that was rude

I mentioned that Josh has started working a part time job at This is the Place Heritage Park.  

It is not so much part time during the summer as he works long hours for now, but the job is pretty versatile and allows him to have time for his other obligations.

A lot of what he does is grounds work and maintenance, but the crew he works with also helps to set up and take down chairs, tables, platforms etc for weddings and parties and things like that.

This past weekend, Josh was helping after a wedding and a woman came and asked him to help her manage an issue.  He dropped what he was doing to help her.  

As he finished assisting her, he started back into the project he had been working on before when she smugly said to him in a voice dribbling with scorn, "And this is why I always tell people that they really should get an education so they don't end up having to do a job like you are doing."

......(deep breath)......

What?

Are you kidding?  

How rude can you be?

First off, there is nothing wrong with an honest job of any sort.  Being gainfully employed in any venue is a positive thing, not something to be sneered at.  Secondly, who is she to decide that my husband is a dunce and therefore unable to find employment in a more "suitable" position.  And lastly, even if that was the vein her thoughts were running in, what kind of person voices that sort of negativity and judgemental rudeness right to the face of the person she is insulting.  Classy, for sure.

Josh handled it better than I think I would have (he really does have a way with people).  He swallowed his annoyance and said, "You know, I tell my students much the same thing.  If you don't get an education you will likely work physically demanding jobs.  I teach high school and have a masters degree on top of which I take regular classes to stay well informed on my topic which happens to be psychology.  I imagine I probably have a higher education than most of the people here at this event, but this job helps me afford to be able to keep teaching which is something I am passionate about.  They just don't pay teachers particularly well."

The woman quickly excused herself and Josh didn't see her again.

But this, boys and girls, is why we should keep our snide, snotty comments to ourselves because otherwise we might find ourselves trying to talk around the foot we have planted in our mouth.  

(And maybe I am being a little bit overprotective because I don't particularly appreciate it when people attack my favorite person on the planet.)

That said, moments like this do make for pretty good stories on the retelling, so maybe it all worked out ok after all.  It is fun to laugh about these things after the fact.

Even with a "low intelligence" job, I think I'll keep him.

A little bit of low education kissing for your viewing pleasure.

Monday, June 29, 2015

Triple temple trip

Sunday afternoon, since it was 104 degrees outside we decided an air conditioned excursion was in order.  Sundays normally involve a lot of outdoor time for our crew (four boys, you know) but it was just too hot to manage that so into the Suburban we went to travel to some temples.

Our original plan was to drive to Payson with a quick stop in Provo, but someone (cough cough me cough) forgot to put gas on the car so we decided to stay a smidge closer to home.

Lucky for us, there are a whole slew of temples dotting our little valley.

First:  Turn on the air conditioner
Second: Insert family members
Third: Off we go!

First stop, Oquirrh Mountain Temple (although when the kids asked where we were heading and I told them they thought I said "Ogre" Mountain Temple...I'll admit, that does conjure more interesting images than the real name).

There were a couple of other families there as well, it was fun to see others out on a sweltering day.


Round two of our outing took us to the Jordan River Temple.  Funny, the family we saw at Oquirrh Mountain was also at Jordan River.  Guess this a temple trip was on the menu for more families than just ours!


Round three found us at the Draper temple where my kids also glimpsed the chateau style homes on the mountainside which grew into a discussion of who would choose which bedroom in such a house and what we would do with the basement...to which I replied I already don't love cleaning up our tiny little West Valley home so I don't need more rooms to tidy all day long.  

The kids promised me they would keep this home much cleaner than our current one so I decided to consider the option of moving.  We shall see.


But here's what we came for, Draper Temple.  Good stuff.  And a good air conditioned afternoon despite the heat.


Draper
Jordan River
Oquirrh Mountain
Salt Lake
Mount Timpanogos
Payson
Provo City
Provo
Bountiful
Ogden
Logan
St. George
Brigham City
Cedar City
Manti
Vernal
Monticello

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